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Scariest word for me. I was talking to this dude at this party celebrating India over Pakistan (cricket) in Buckhead. He was talking with this lady who is pretty attractive. I was staring at her and he made a joke about her being captain of a cricket team since I only talk about sports. She laughed. He mentioned about him getting married and I asked if she (lady was I looking) was the one and then he said no, I'm marrying back home.

When he said that, I got out of there quick. "Back home" is code word for cousin or a distant relative. Nightmares. These girls have that demeanor like Jerry Lee Lewis' first wife, related or not. Wasn't really doing a great job at the club of getting ladies as a matter of fact, I crashed hard. But I wasn't the only one. Guys at the club sat against the wall or hung out with other guys while the girls danced hard. Not all of them. One dude offered me a drink. But most resigned to themselves that the only way to get a lady is "back home." I did have a person who offered to teach "Bollywood" Dancing but that I had to bring a dance partner. Then why would I need to be at a club?

Truth is harder for an Indian guy (maybe even women) to get an non-relations Indian than its to get a white, black, or other racial types of women. Shoot, its easier for that Hindu to get a Muslim or a Christian woman for that matter. Its like what my real mother use to say to me. You can marry anybody you want but if you marry an Indian, you better do it within your caste (essentially within your family relations). This attitude is still prevalent when it comes to Indian men.

Truth is: I stink. I don't know about other Indian guys and their issues. I can only go on me. I tried to avoid them because in my younger teen days, there family was around them. As an adult, I realized how American I am but that I have too much Southern Indian sexism to relate. Mostly, I couldn't relate to them. Not that I can with anybody else but they ain't no practice dummies, which I respect. Unlike..... I will stick with being friends but I ain't going home. LOL.